When celebrating something, some people like to send gifts to others. This is done to show some courtesy towards others. However, while some may accept it happily, some others may not. Why?
When celebrating the festive season, some people like to give gifts to others, such as luxurious coats, expensive watches, and extravagant delicacies. For them, gifts are closely related to respect; if you don’t give a precious gift, it means not respecting that person. As the saying goes, "Courtesy costs nothing." Instead of giving gifts, it is better to send more, so as not to lose face.
However, not everyone thinks so. For some people, receiving a luxury gift is an annoyance because they have to think about how to return. In addition, the person receiving the gift is not necessarily as wealthy as the gift-giving person or is familiar with the gift-giving person. In this case, receiving gifts is a problem for these people.
Furthermore, the gift giver may also have ulterior motives. Some people are not close to us, but they give us a very valuable gift. It is easy to make people suspect that he harbors evil intentions; accepting their gifts means that we should accord with their expectations. The main purpose of giving gifts is to make people feel happy, but this kind of gift is making people feel uneasy, instead.
Therefore, I feel that "courtesy costs nothing" is not a good idea.
- 佳節 - jiā jié - a festive day
- 豪華 - háo huá - luxury
- 豪侈 - háo chǐ- extravagant
- 珍饈 - zhēn xiū - delicacies
- 密切相關 - mì qiè xiāng guān - closely related
- 收禮 - shōu lǐ - receiver (of gift)
- 送禮 - sòng lǐ- sender (of gift)
- 別有企圖 - bié yǒu qì tú - [idiom] have ulterior motives
- 居心不良 - jū xīn bù liáng - [idiom] harbor evil intentions
- 忐忑不安 - tǎn tè bù ān - [idiom] uneasy, restless
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