What if one likes “him” or “her”?

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This essay expresses one's opinion about the LGBT world. What if one likes "him" or "her"? Are they normal? Am I normal?

It is quite long and very "Chinese-styled", hence a little bit hard to translate. Nevertheless, it is written neatly and has got some vocabularies related to sexuality. I would suggest you read the original essay written in Chinese.


喜欢男生又怎样?

喜欢女生又怎样?

跟他在一起又怎样?

跟她在一起又怎样?


男女关系才算是正常,同性就是不正常?一听到同性恋不是想到精神病,就是想到这可怜虫小时候被虐待,脑被洗成这样。世界的传统世俗是不是太传统古老了?尤其是那说「同性恋者是一种会传染的病毒,需要被仇视被隔离被排斥被捆绑被杀灭」的这种人,我觉得他们才有病。


难道他们恐怕自己的「异性恋抗体」不够强壮足以抵抗 「同性恋病毒」?


我不是排斥异己 ; 我知道我不能厚此薄彼。我只是真的不喜欢这歧视性。我,你,他,同性恋和异性恋在各方面没有不一样,只是性取向的差异而已。他们也是跟你一样很自然地喜欢一个人,爱一个人。你强逼他们喜欢异性才是不自然的。你没办法理解这种看法也罢,因为硬逼你接受也是不自然的,可是你也不可以盲目地讨厌而歧视他们。我认识了不少的同志,有的很善良,有的很恶毒,就像异性恋者一样。


同性恋并不是一种病,因此没办法「治疗」,也不会「传染」。异性恋不会变成同性恋,反之亦然。你一直给同志看异性恋影片,也无法改变他们的性倾向,况且他们从婴儿时期也已进入异性恋环境了。在这么长久环境影响中都丝毫无法改变他们的性倾向,怎么会有人认为同性恋可以被治愈呢?


人的一生一世也许会爱过异性,也会爱过同性。但重点是 「爱过一个人」,不论性别。


就是很自然地爱上那个「ㄊㄚ」。



喜歡男生又怎樣?

喜歡女生又怎樣?

跟他在一起又怎樣?

跟她在一起又怎樣?


男女關係才算是正常,同性就是不正常?一聽到同性戀不是想到精神病,就是想到這可憐蟲小時候被虐待,腦被洗成這樣。世界的傳統世俗是不是太傳統古老了?尤其是那說「同性戀者是一種會傳染的病毒,需要被仇視被隔離被排斥被捆綁被殺滅」的這種人,我覺得他們才有病。


難道他們恐怕自己的「異性戀抗體」不夠強壯足以抵抗 「同性戀病毒」?


我不是排斥異己 ; 我知道我不能厚此薄彼。我只是真的不喜歡這歧視性。我,你,他,同性戀和異性戀在各方面沒有不一樣,只是性取向的差異而已。他們也是跟你一樣很自然地喜歡一個人,愛一個人。你強逼他們喜歡異性才是不自然的。你沒辦法理解這種看法也罷,因為硬逼你接受也是不自然的,可是你也不可以盲目地討厭而歧視他們。我認識了不少的同志,有的很善良,有的很惡毒,就像異性戀者一樣。


同性戀並不是一種病,因此沒辦法「治療」,也不會「傳染」。異性戀不會變成同性戀,反之亦然。你一直給同志看異性戀影片,也無法改變他們的性傾向,況且他們從嬰兒時期也已進入異性戀環境了。在這麼長久環境影響中都絲毫無法改變他們的性傾向,怎麼會有人認為同性戀可以被治癒呢?


人的一生一世也許會愛過異性,也會愛過同性。但重點是 「愛過一個人」,不論性別。


就是很自然地愛上那個「ㄊㄚ」。


English translation:

What if one likes a boy?
What if one likes a girl?
How about being with him?
How about being with her?

A man-woman relationship is normal, and a same-sex relationship is not normal? When they heard the word "homosexuality", if not start thinking of mental disorder, then they will start thinking these poor people were abused when they were a child and got brainwashed like this. Is this traditional-secular world simply too old-fashioned? Especially, the person who said that "homosexuality is a contagious virus that needs to be hated and keep apart and rejected and tied up and exterminated", I think they are the ones who are sick.

Or is it possible that they are afraid their "heterosexual antibodies" are not strong enough to resist the "homosexual virus"?

I am not rejecting other people's opinions; I know that I should not discriminate any opinions. It is just that I really hate this discrimination. I, you, him, homosexuals, and heterosexuals are not different in all aspects, except in sexual orientation. They like a person naturally, they love a person naturally, just like us. Forcing them to like the opposite sex is the one that is unnatural. It is very okay if you can't understand this view since it is also unnatural for me to force you to accept this view, but you can't just blindly hate and discriminate against them. I have met a few homosexuals, some are very kind, some are very vicious, just like heterosexuals.

Homosexuality is not a disease, so there is no way to "cure" or "infect". Heterosexuality will not turn into homosexuality, vice versa. You cannot change homosexual's sexual orientation by showering them with heterosexual films. Moreover, they have entered a heterosexual environment since childhood. If such a long-term heterosexual environment still cannot change their sexual inclination, how can anyone think that homosexuality can be cured?

A person's life may have loved the opposite sex and may have loved the same sex, too. But the point is "falling in love with one person," regardless of gender.

It is simply falling in love with ㄊㄚ, naturally.


Special notes:

  • 虐待 - nüèdài - abuse
  • 世俗 - shìsú - common customs
  • 仇視 - chóushì - to regard as an enemy
  • 隔離 - gélí - to keep apart, isolated
  • 排斥- páichì - to expel, reject, exclude
  • 捆綁 - kǔnbǎng - to tie up
  • 殺滅 - shā miè - to exterminate, destroy
  • 排斥異己 - páichìyìjǐ - [idiom] to discriminate or reject those with different views
  • 厚此薄彼 - hòucǐbóbǐ - [idiom] to favor one and discriminate the other
  • 性取向 - xìng qǔxiàng - sexual orientation
  • 反之亦然 - fǎnzhī yì rán - vice versa
  • 傾向 - qīngxiàng - inclination, a tendency
  • 時期 - shíqí - period. phase
  • ㄊㄚ - tā - the Zhuyin pronunciation of 他 and 她 (and 牠 and 它 and 祂)

Photo by Peter Hershey

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